Why We Fail

Before we dive deeper into this program, let's talk about failure and resistance for a second to mentally prepare for the weeks ahead. 

It's safe to say that all of us have, at some point in our lives, committed to a goal and quit. For example, you went paleo... for a week. You planned out your workouts for a month but only made it to the gym twice. Remember when you promised your dentist that you would start flossing every day?... :(

There are a multitude of reasons for quitting before you reach the finish line.  If you take a closer look, they ALL ultimately fall under two insecurities:

1. Fear of success and/or failure

Fear is a powerful thing. It creeps into everything you do: every opportunity, every decision, every responsibility. It can be a driving force or a crippling one. Sometimes it feels easier to stay comfortable exactly where you are rather than discover what is on the other side of the finish line. Fear is not something you overcome or learn how to remove altogether. Instead, recognize your excuses as FEAR.  

Next time you find yourself "falling off the wagon," think about why you made the choice to compromise and give up on yourself. Was fear a part of it? 

2. Feeling unworthy of the end result

For those that resonate with this insecurity, it is likely that this feeling of "being unworthy" stems from a time in your past when you might have been told that you didn’t deserve something, or you may have had your heart set on something and experienced disappointment when you didn't get it. Who hasn't felt disappointment in this way before? 

These experiences are important for growth in your life; however, If you are not in tune with your thoughts and you become wrapped up in your own EGO when expectations are not met, it is easy to feel like you aren't deserving or worthy of things you THINK you want in life. Telling yourself you are unworthy and undeserving will only bring more pain and suffering. 

"So what can I do?"

Break the cycle. It all starts with your thoughts, which lead to your actions. In the coming days, we will explore tools like meditation and conscious language to help you shift your perspective but for NOW, you can use tactical skills like your SMART goals to create daily, attainable success so that you can remove fear and doubt from your life.

Open up your workbook to Day 4...

Think of a time in your life when you quit something you had committed to and couldn’t forgive yourself enough to pick back up where you left off and move forward. Why did you quit? What excuse did you make for why you couldn’t start over? Why haven’t you forgiven yourself? If you feel compelled to share in the comments of this lesson, know this is a safe space to open up about your fears. 

ESSENTIAL OILS TIP OF THE DAY

STARTER KIT SUGGESTION:

Frankincense. Create a safe and comforting environment when you diffuse or inhale this empowering oil for a perfect opportunity to collect your thoughts and shift them into a positive space.

BONUS SUGGESTION:

Valor. This is an essential oil blend that supports a feeling of courage. Use it to greet each morning with a positive attitude or to unwind at the end of the day. Massage onto your chest near your heart while thinking about your successes, both past and future.

Release . This is an aroma that facilitates the ability to let go of anger and frustration. It also promotes harmony and balance when diffused. Use Release to help you let go of negative thoughts.